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#1 User is offline   tntmo 

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Posted 07 March 2010 - 11:14 PM

I'm not going to go into the details here, but can anyone recommend a divorce attorney to me? :rolleyes:
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Posted 07 March 2010 - 11:57 PM

View Posttntmo, on Mar 7 2010, 11:14 PM, said:

I'm not going to go into the details here, but can anyone recommend a divorce attorney to me? :rolleyes:


You should interview two or three before you make a selection. I can personally recommend this attorney:

http://local.yahoo.com/info-20794801-keeli...john-h-el-cajon
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 05:19 AM

No, I won't.

I would highly recommend mediation as an alternative to the courts. The National Conflict Resolution Center is a San Diego based organization dedicated to mutually satisfying resolution to conflicts.

In divorce cases, especially if there are children involved, reducing the amount of acrimony and seeking a non-combative option can save HUGE amounts of time, money and energy for everyone. The amount of money attorneys make in divorce cases is nearly criminal, and the system as it currently exists rewards attorneys when the conflict is escalated and extended- not by mutually agreed quick and thoughtful fair settlements. In short, it's in lawyers best interest to escalate acrimony.

Mediation is also a process that reduces the damage to both parties in a divorce, and promotes healing and the ability to move forward in life rather than much of the very damaging and negative fallout typical with litigious decisions.

I have personally trained as a mediator with the National Conflict Resolution Center, and met several of their mediators as well as their president. My wife has been on their Board of Directors for several years. Their mediators are usually attorneys who have become unsatisfied with the system and seek to improve resolution outside the system. Their success rate is very high.

Here's the link:

http://www.ncrconline.com/

If I were near a divorce, this would be my first call after family therapy.

Good luck, and my condolences to whomever is involved. I'm a divorce rookie compared to some of my friends on this board, but once is enough for me, believe me.
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Disclaimer: FakeName does not make any claim whatsoever about his riding ability apart from "I fall down a lot". FakeName freely admits he's far slower than the majority of riders in any given group, and has limited navigation capability, with or without gps or maps. FakeName also denies any mechanical ability nor ability to maintain a motorcycle at any level of competence. FakeName strongly suggests each FakeName post be followed with subtle and subdued laughter, as most posts by FakeName are not to be taken seriously.


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Posted 08 March 2010 - 05:45 AM

View PostFakeName, on Mar 8 2010, 05:19 AM, said:

I would highly recommend mediation as an alternative to the courts.


That's fine - unless you need to go ex-parte in front of a Judge because you wife Cleaned out your home-equity line and bank accounts and cancelled your credit-card. I am not bitter...anymore.
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 06:01 AM

View PostKIP, on Mar 8 2010, 05:45 AM, said:

View PostFakeName, on Mar 8 2010, 05:19 AM, said:

I would highly recommend mediation as an alternative to the courts.


That's fine - unless you need to go ex-parte in front of a Judge because you wife Cleaned out your home-equity line and bank accounts and cancelled your credit-card. I am not bitter...anymore.


There is no crazy spending or anyting like that going on, but when only one member of the marriage is willing to work on it and the other one refuses to, then I doubt family counseling is in the cards. As much as I don't like it or want it to happen, I will respect the decision. I'll look into the mediation thing.
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 06:17 AM


KERSHEK AND SHULAR
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Mark Shular is a fair, noncombative (but will represent your interests) guy. He let me keep the costs down as I did some of my own research, wrote some of the arguments & he just read, approved and put on letterhead.

Take Fakey's advice first but if it doesn't work, Mark's a safe bet.

If you ever need to talk, even at odd hours, call me. No matter how it goes, it's a tough thing to go thru.
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 06:34 AM

:rolleyes: :o
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 07:00 AM

Is there a SDAR discount on one? Maybe we should keep one on retainer around here.

Sorry to hear the bad news. Hope you can work it out in mediation. Good luck.
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 07:49 AM

No expertise and don't have much space at the moment... but never hesitate to ask the group to pick up or store anything for you, help move, etc... don't get burdened with tasks others would be more than happy to do for you.

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Posted 08 March 2010 - 07:51 AM

View Postsandiegoland, on Mar 8 2010, 07:49 AM, said:

No expertise and don't have much space at the moment... but never hesitate to ask the group to pick up or store anything for you, help move, etc... don't get burdened with tasks others would be more than happy to do for you.



I second that... Feel free to PM me with anything you may need. Sorry you have to deal with this bro...
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 07:54 AM

Crap, Tom...that sucks

Fake Name gives good advice (this time)...I helped my ex-wife through her first divorce (confused yet?) And they each had lawyers...lawyers make less money if everything is agreeable...so they are disagreeable. By the time it was over, both parties ended up with big bills, a lot of animosity and the furniture

We she and I divorced, however, we used a paralegal and some common sense. Not to say it was easy, but at least it wasn't a huge financial drain. No court time, little legal fees, and no hassle

I feel for you and hope everything works out for you and the kids
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 08:03 AM

Not to beat a dead xr650, but mediation also promotes agreement and reduces personal animosity and emotional damage. One of my worst nightmares is divorce- not personally, but for our child. Mediation can help lubricate the complex relationships surrounding divorce, thus reducing the amount of rancor and animosity to which the children are exposed.

As Kip pointed out, there are times when the courts are the only way. But those are truly very rare.
Paul

Disclaimer: FakeName does not make any claim whatsoever about his riding ability apart from "I fall down a lot". FakeName freely admits he's far slower than the majority of riders in any given group, and has limited navigation capability, with or without gps or maps. FakeName also denies any mechanical ability nor ability to maintain a motorcycle at any level of competence. FakeName strongly suggests each FakeName post be followed with subtle and subdued laughter, as most posts by FakeName are not to be taken seriously.


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Posted 08 March 2010 - 08:47 AM

Thanks for the good advice so far, I really appreciate it. So far there is no animosity, the biggest point of contention is that I want to work it out and she doesn't. I can only try so much to change a persons mind, if it is set then it's time to move on. So far everything is civil, but I know how quickly these things change when children and money are involved. Got a breakfast date soon, will bring up the mediation deal.
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 09:06 AM

View PostTrophyHunter, on Mar 8 2010, 06:17 AM, said:


KERSHEK AND SHULAR
14261 Danielson St
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Mark Shular is a fair, noncombative (but will represent your interests) guy. He let me keep the costs down as I did some of my own research, wrote some of the arguments & he just read, approved and put on letterhead.

Take Fakey's advice first but if it doesn't work, Mark's a safe bet.

If you ever need to talk, even at odd hours, call me. No matter how it goes, it's a tough thing to go thru.

+1 - Denny Kershek is a personal friend of mine and he'll look after the kids best interests/your best interests.....

However, another friend of mine is a veteran/therapist who counsels couples facing "issues".....I'd suggest starting with Walt if your wife is open to exploration: http://www.drwaltr.com/
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Posted 08 March 2010 - 09:33 AM

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